Candace Cameron Bure decided to focus her new book, “Dancing With the Stars, Dancing Through Life: Steps of Courage and Conviction” about her experience on Dancing With The Stars, dealing with modesty, and leaping out of her comfort zone. Below are a few questions she answered for Time.
Why did you decide to write a whole book about your Dancing With the Stars experience?
Bure: Two reasons. After doing that show, I learned so much about myself in such a short amount of time. Each week really was filled with these huge life lessons, which I didn’t think I could learn at the age that I’m at. So that in itself was quite a shock and surprised me. And the other reason was that I had wanted to write a book about conviction, and yet I never felt that I had the right platform to write it. So after DWTS, it was the perfect place to write about courage and conviction, and then share the experience and all the life lessons. I was actually scheduled to write a book on a different topic, and after I had done DWTS, a week later I called my publisher and said, “Hey, can we switch gears? Because I really want to write about this and I think it would be perfect, and it’s so fresh in my mind, let me just do this,” and they were on board.
You write about struggling with modesty on Dancing With the Stars. What do you think is the biggest misconception about Christian womanhood in America?
I think that so many people—and it can be both people of faith and secular people—I feel like things are often put to the extreme one way or another, and there’s not a lot of common sense that goes along with it. It’s like you hear from people that aren’t Christians, and when they mock you, they want to say, “Oh, shouldn’t you be in a turtleneck and something covering your ankles?” That’s not silly in certain cultures, but for living in America, obviously that’s something that’s said with such sarcasm, they’re trying to get at you.
And yet within Christians, everyone has a different set of standards, and that’s why it was important for me to say, “Hey, these are what my convictions are, you may not agree with my conviction as a Christian, but at the end of the day, I will stand before God on my own, you’ll stand before God on your own, so if you have a different standard, great, you’re gonna talk to him about it, I’m gonna talk to him about it, I’ll have to deal with my own consequences.” That’s where I stand, but I feel like the biggest misconception about the word “modesty” in general is just that it’s restricted to hemlines and necklines and clothes, when modesty is so much more about our character, and the way we carry ourselves, and the way we speak and act. That was the thing that I wanted to get across the most, because the Bible doesn’t really talk about hemlines.