Karina Smirnoff Interviewed On Her Break-ups And Wanting To Be A Mother
People interviewed Karina Smirnoff about her love life and wanting to be a mother. She’s been hurt a lot in the past and recently as you know. Let’s wish her the best as she tries to pick up the pieces and move on. #WeLoveYouKarina
“I think we can all solidly agree, without a doubt, that [it hasn’t been a] good life with men,” said the 37-year-old Dancing with the Stars pro, who recently broke things off with her third fiancé, Jason Adelman.
“It’s not that I choose the wrong men. That has nothing to do with it. I’m at the place in my life that I want to be a mom more than anything and I want to be a wife. I want to live for another human being and give that little guy or girl everything I have. But sometimes the desire becomes bigger than living in the moment and realizing what is happening, learning from my mistakes and seeing the red flags.”
Smirnoff, who was previously engaged to fellow DWTS pro Maksim Chermkovskiy and MLB pitcher Brad Penny, said her recent breakup with Adelman was so painful that she realized it was time to make a change.
“I’m in therapy now,” she told PEOPLE. “I’ve gotten to the point where it’s not embarrassing. I need therapy. I need to fix myself. I need to figure out what I do to get myself in these situations because I don’t think I can have another heartbreak. I can’t go through it again and stay sane and stay normal.”
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So sad about her break-up. 🙁 Wishing her all the best(I am still available 😉 ).
Aw jeez, this interview made me cry.
I was in the same situation before I found my husband. I just wanted to be loved and give love instead of dealing with losers that were afraid of commitment. It was a painful time.
I send her my love and prayers. I’m so glad she mentioned that she is in therapy. Their should never be a stigma associated with getting therapy. It’s a brave thing to seek help in figuring out how to find your happy place.
I didn’t think I could adore Karina anymore than I already do, but I was wrong. I just love her.
Susan, I don’t think any of those men are losers as they all found their happiness with the other women.
Alicia, how do you know? Do you know them personally? Just because they found other women doesn’t mean they are to beat all. You could be right…but, Susan2 could be right too.
Whatever the case, they weren’t the right person for her. Karina is lovely in and out and I hope she never forgets that as she gets her bearings back again. The right guy will come along one day and it will all make sense.
And lol Jim!!
I just don’t think she blames any of them. She blames herself and that’s why she in therapy.
…she is in therapy.
Maybe but that doesn’t mean it’s all her fault and it’s not THEM with issues.
If a man is with a woman who wants a serious, committed future with them while they themselves are not interested in that sort of relationship, but yet they still stay with that woman, than I consider that man a loser.
She could be out there finding the man of her dreams instead of wasting her time with him and setting herself up for heartache.
Karina has said in numerous interviews for several years that she wants to get married and have a child. It’s not like it’s some secret agenda.
And I was speaking from my own personal experiences about my rather frustrating dating experiences before I got married. I reserve the right to call some of the douchbags I dated losers.
It’s not a matter of blame or fault. Karina knows she’s the only one she has control over, and if she wants things to be different she needs to do/be something different. Even if all the guys are losers, the question becomes why she is attracted to them. If she wants to be a mother, I would tell her not to wait to find the man who wants to do it with her. I was in a vaguely similar situation, and I decided to go ahead and adopt a little girl from China, which was the best thing I could have done. Sometimes things work beautifully, but it doesn’t look at all like the pictures you had. I wish her all the best. Be bold!!!!
Susan, I’m sure the man who spends more than $100,000 to buy an engagement ring and propose is pretty much serious about his intentions.
#alicia. That depends on what $100,000 means to him. Some people don’t need to think long and hard about spending $100,000 as others do.
@Suzy – Perspective: Warren Buffett is estimated to make about $25K PER MINUTE. He could make enough to buy a $100K ring while dropping a deuce in the office bathroom.
Yet Karina didn’t mention lack of commitment as an issue at all. :/ What I got from the article is that she isn’t blaming anyone. She just wants to explore how to do things differently next time. Nothing wrong with that.
Alicia, I think we’re just going to have to agree to disagree. I don’t want to get into detail on my romantic history and derail the post.
I do think Karina’s future child is going to be one lucky duck to have her as thier mother. Plus, free ballroom dancing lessons!
I love Karina and I think she is doing the right thing She is a beautiful person and deserves to be happy and I know somewhere out there is the “one” for her She will make a great mom and wish her all the best at finding true happiness I’m happy to hear she is getting help And there is nothing wrong with that All the best Karina You go girl!
Wishing Karina all kinds of happiness!
Love Karina to bits and am very happy she made the decision to get therapy if that’s what she feels she needs to find happiness.
It sounds like what she really, really, really wants is a child. This is the 21st Century, she sure doesn’t need a husband for that! Lot’s of professional women have also been successful moms raising happy, healthy kids. Karina could do it, I’m sure.
@Cidra, maybe there are reasons she hasn’t mentioned? Maybe she would prefer for the child to have a father as well, or maybe she would want additional support in raising a child. I hope that if she doesn’t find the man soon that she does do what you suggest. Especially because she’s thirty-seven I think (?) if she wants to have the baby naturally, I think health risks with babies increase at forty and after. I mean, I don’t mean that in an offensive way, if she decides to have a baby in her forties that’s totally okay as well, but she may be feeling societal and biological pressure :(((( feel bad for her, she seems like a nice person. plus imagine the amazing figure the baby would inherit 😀
@jennylynn, I’m sure she would prefer to have “the complete package” she’s been looking for, but life is full of compromises and choices. All I was saying is she shouldn’t feel her dream of motherhood is beyond her reach just because she hasn’t found the right man to share her life. Hopefully, therapy will help her clarify her needs, address her worries, and give her the tools to feel confident in whatever choices she makes for her future.
Maybe someone outside the celebrity and sports world would be a better fit for her. I don’t know about fiancé two and three but I know Max has an ego bigger than all of Russia.
All excellent points jennylynn(#18) and Cidra(#19)! Even Karina may not have all the answers.
Karina is my favorite female pro and I feel so sad for her. We don’t really know why Jason broke off the engagement, only what “sources” are reporting as the reason.
I’m sure she’s hurt but I also think she is a strong lady and with therapy, she will through this.
I have been following DWTS Since the first season (stopped watching this season). It seems from what I have witnessed is that Karina has some sort of impulsivity issues. These can lead to irrational behaviors that are difficult to deal by a spouse so hopefully the therapy addresses this. Such as I had to take my 3 children off her Instagram when she posted that “it doesn’t take one man to get over someone but two or three”. My kids don’t need to see this and she is a role model. How would her parents or her ex feel seeing this? It seems Karina and Jason have not dished anything negative and I appreciate that. By the way, am I the only one who thinks jason looks like Paul Walker? Wishing the best to them both!
I have always liked Karina and miss her this season. I am hoping that she finds the right guy and goes on to have a beautiful family.
I agree I wish her happiness, but we should be supporting her therapy to see if the issues herself and jason had can be mended. I have been married for 11 years and sometimes we have to acknowledge our own pitfalls to make a relationship work. By the way, does anyone know where I can find Jason Adelman as he seems elusive and under the radar. He doesn’t have Instagram or Twitter. I want to tell him what’s going on and maybe they can do couples therapy? You people all say she needs a professional type, well he is and had no baggage unlike her ex. Why move on from a good prospect when he is in front of her face? Does anyone know what he does or his email address? I would like to email him.
I know Jason has a Facebook page that’s where he announced the engagement and sadly the breakup. I thought I had read somewhere he was dating someone. I could be wrong about that and I hope there is still a chance for him and Karina.
I hope therapy helps Karina and brings her closer to find the one and having the children she wants.
Your correct he doesn’t have any social media but Facebook. Just look up his name Jason Adelman. I don’t think he is dating anyone as in the various comments he eludes to the fact those girls are his long time friends. Plus he still has karinas pictures and I highly doubt any girl would want those remaining but that’s speculative. I tried messaging him to find out what happened and he never responded. He seems like a family guy and I agree they would have made a great couple. Sometimes people get back together so hoping Karina’s therapy helps them both. I don’t think either one cheated or it would have came out somewhere somehow.